But if we don’t willingly sit in the tension of pain—if we don’t own the brokenness in our life—we will never be available to be truly known. -Bianca Olthoff
The space in between is usually an uncomfortable and painful place. The space we find ourselves in lies in between letting go of something loved and moving towards the new and unknown. It’s a time of loss or death, in which what is to come is not yet realized and we are left with the painful emotions of grief, terror, and desire. In this place, we don’t even know if there is anything new to come, but we are full of desire.
It is a place of tension and longing. We have lost something within ourselves or someone we love. A phase of a relationship is gone. A season of life is over. Something within us has died. Is there any hope for the future and will we be able to expand enough to love again or in a new way? Is there anything of value to be gained from this place of tension?
I believe this space in between is a place of birth, and therefore there is value, great value, in remaining in this uncomfortable and often terrifying space. Can we willingly sit in the tension of pain, with no certainty of what’s to come, in darkness with no true vision, not knowing if new life will come? We don’t like this space but are we willing to be in it with the hope of growth and expansion? Can we tolerate the deep experiences of pain and terror, knowing somewhere within these experiences lies the birthing place of creativity and love?
I invite you into this space with me with the understanding that these places do not have to be traveled alone.